Choices in life are potentially the most difficult things to sometimes go through, especially at the points of major change.
Naturally, as human beings our bodies resists physical and mental change. Science calls it homeostasis. It's the idea of our bodies keeping it's current state because this current state is what has kept us alive. We are living now so why change things?
The problem, with this of course, is social changes absolutely destroy us.
I was on Facebook a few moments ago, and the LifeCoach, Comedian and TV presenter Steve Harvey came on my feed. He started talking about one key bit of wisdom. This is generally the idea that trust in something more powerful than you.
He started discussing the idea of sometimes doors can close on you.
It hurts going through such a change, being kicked out of the current reality. It sucks. You naturally go through a rollercoaster of emotions thinking are they getting back with you? Did you make the right choice? What even triggered this in the first place? Why me? Why do I deserve this?
You have anger, hate, loss and depression all at the same time. You just don't know how to think or feel. In moments like this though, all you can do is recognised that life has closed that door because at the end of the dark alleyway, at the end of this cold, ruthless and heartless place, there is an open door waiting for your next chapter.
We naturally want to resist this, but it simply is the case that perhaps you are meant to go down a different path. A path with more life and light. A better path that leads you to places more incredible than you could ever imagine.
If the original door re-opens, then perhaps it's your turn to go back. However, even children go out to play before being called back home!
The most important thing to consider as one closes is look at the opportunities life gives you right now. Look at the love of the universe and how it feeds you everything you need to proceed and exceed what you thought was possible. Life, God and Universe are so much more wise and powerful than you could ever imagine and you would do better trusting in the wisdom of such power over your own!
Strengthen your faith and don't let your own ego get in the way of such a beautiful life that is ahead of you. Trust, ask and the universe will provide... after all... you are the universe too!
I wish to publically declare thanks to friends, contacts, colleagues, neighbours and everyone and anyone else I have and continue to interact with. You have shaped my life and many continue to do so.
Thank you for such love and I look forward to what life brings moving forward trusting in things more powerful than me that will get the job done!
To an amazing 2021!!!
There's something to be said about change, change is tough but if change is forced upon you then all you can do is ride the waves along the way.
Today I changed the locks on my front and back door retaking full control of my house. It is from this point only I and my parents can enter this address.
Part of me was really hoping it didn't come down to this, however this seems to be the path I am being forced down so my role is just to trust in something bigger than me and embrace it riding the waves instead of resisting.
I feel really sad saying this as I genuinely like the person and we did get along, however she made a choice to push me away and disregard all the good times we had together. I respect her and appreciate the times we had together and I really don't want to do this but it's time to emotionally disconnect.
Throughout the relationship, I comprimised wherever I could and by doing so all it did was made her take more. I had forgiven her time and time again for various things which she took for granted and seemed like she started doing more and more. I really wanted to make it work but my assumption now looking back is as soon as she felt like it was settling, she started detaching. It seemed to be as soon as I was moving into a house and she ran the real likelihood of moving in with me it all of a sudden turned. I wonder if she just wasn't ready to settle down and the idea just scared her. Looking back, I now believe she just wanted friendship and some company!
Whichever guy she gets with next, I really hope for his sake and hers that she has spent more time to discover herself as in independent adult first.
The curious thing is, would I get back with her in the future? Surprisingly the answer is yes (shock) but only after she finds herself a little more and is ready to settle down in a more serious relationship. We really did work together and that is why this is such a hard breakup. Part of me still finds this bizarre and I don't think that will ever leave me!
On the off chance you are reading this, no hard feelings whatsoever and I wish you the best of luck on your journey of life moving forward! Best wishes.
To everyone else, keep in touch on this blog and comment below...
it amazes me how things can be so cyclical in life.
Yet again, another failed relationship but I genuinely wonder what happened. Considering that the only variable that stayed the same in both of these relationships was me... I know I am to blame.
Saying that, I am reflecting back on my choices of Women. When I met my ex, she was under-confident, timid, incapable, couldn't even speak to a waiter on a meal out to order her food she was that under-confident and yet several years later she has grown substantially.
I am a Christian and I am starting to think my role was never to be with her indefinitely but instead just to help her grow as a human being and I seem to have done that really well! She is 10x the person she was when we first met and I can take pride in knowing how much I have helped another human being along the way.
Part of me feels sorry for her now due to a death of a close family member, she has changed her energy and tone although it seems to be going better than I thought. I hope she pulls through!
I need to stop doing this, stop finding people to fix and start finding people to compliment my life instead!
Of course, I still have internal issues myself and perhaps they need to be resolved before I go looking for a partner to compliment my life hence this journey of 2021 and the blog has begun. This will be an incredible year to find myself, grow, develop, gain confidence and truely succeed.
Here's to a new year, new me and new life. Let the good times roll!!!